Thursday, January 21, 2010

The Best Kind of Problem

I have a question for you, my dear readers.

When a second child comes into your life. . . how can you possibly love it as much as your first child? How?

13 comments:

PamalaLauren said...

I'd like to know too. It's what I worry about the most. How could I possibly love another child as much as I love my daughter? And what does that mean for the newbie? I'm sure in the end it all works out fine, so we'll just have to wait and see.

~heather said...

I thought the same thing when I was pregnant with #2. Then we found out we were having another girl. How could she possibly be as cute/sweet/perfect/loving, etc. as her big sister? The answer is simple. You just do. Your heart swells far beyond what you can imagine. You just can't understand until the second one's here :)

Lesley said...

Ahhhh! We've been having this *very* conversation at our house. I am an only child, so it seems even harder for me to understand! My MIL (mother of three) says "They put that little baby in your arms and you start loving that way all over again." Cute, huh? Guess we just have to wait and see!

BTW, I woke up today (5w1d) with hideous morning sickness. Hasn't gone away and it is 3pm. Ugh.... Glad you're feeling better though! haha

Kristina said...

I wondered the SAME thing up until she came into the world. Well, there is no explanation. All I can say is, You just do! If your heart could swell to allow more room, that is what happens!

Becky said...

You just do. Your heart has unlimited love :)

Even though I don't have a second child everybody I know has told me that

Ms. J said...

you know I actively fret over this, on all sorts of levels, including the adoptive vs. bio.

Would you believe I got word the other day of a friend's adoptive match and was crazy JEALOUS, and then 5 minutes later remembered I was pregnant (WTF?!)

I am told the same thing many others have said ... The moment in your arms helps a lot. I know it's different, but 13 yrs ago my then-19 yr old cousin became pregnant, and much of the family spent 9 months trying to come to terms with it. 20 minutes after our BELOVED Nate was born, none of us could remember how we ever got by without him before?! He has been thee most exquisite and delightful child, and is now becoming such a splendid young man :o)

But I am going continue to fret for another 8 wks, okay?!

Michele said...

Your heart just explodes and it becomes a nonquestion. :)

HereWeGoAJen said...

Easy. The same way it is possible to love the first child as much as you do. Because that kind of love seems impossible too.

Sunny said...

Catching up! On the stroller thing, obviously I can't be of any help. But I was satisfied with what I had for Bean in the "single" version, so I am trying it again with twins. I am getting a Graco double frame that will hold two infant car seats, and then the Maclaren side-by-side stroller.

As far as loving more than one... I have absolutely no idea. I love the twins a ton already, but they surely can't be as awesome as Bean.

Oh, and I sent you a link to the helping hands site this morning. Check your spam folder -- the message has "Sunny in Seattle" in the title. :)

Danifred said...

It just happens and it's amazing. You never think you'll be able to do it, but somehow your heart swells and is filled with even MORE love. '
Again, it's just amazing!

Anonymous said...

This old granny had the same situation 32 yrs. ago. Had a beautiful little girl, lost a precious baby at 12 weeks, and then had a successful pregnancy. When the third pregnancy was sound, I began to wonder how I could love baby 3 as much as baby 1. A wise friend said because I loved our first girl so much, I would be able to love baby 3 just that same way. She was right. Love for our new daughter bursted my heart just as my love for her sister did. My love for these fine young women continues to grow!

Liz in GA

Beth said...

I felt the same way when pregnant with #2. But there is no understanding it until it happens (just like everyone told you parenthood is amazing, and yet you didn't *quite* understand until your baby was born). Your heart just grows, and makes room for more. And your cup will just continue to run over and over and over..........!

Anonymous said...

I have three and it all just grows every time. It's inexplicable. It's wonderful. It's amazing. And it will just happen, you will love this one just as much as Will! You may even love them both more :)