I have a question for you, my dear readers.
When a second child comes into your life. . . how can you possibly love it as much as your first child? How?
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After taking the hit so many times, we finally dodged the bullet . . . And we're forever grateful. This is a story about parenting our three miracles after unexplained recurrent pregnancy loss.
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Our Story. . . So Far
My husband and I endured nine miscarriages as we tried to build our family, becoming part of the 2% of couples who experience recurrent miscarriages. All of our friends had babies, so I used to joke, "It's because I am taking the statistical bullet for you." It stopped being funny, but it made a great blog title.
Through the miracle of IVF/PGD, we were blessed to finally bring our son, William Patrick, into our lives on August 20, 2008. We were then given a second miracle and welcomed our daughter, Emma Grace, on July 17, 2010. And just when we thought we were done, we got even luckier and Andrew Robert joined us on October 11, 2012.
Through the miracle of IVF/PGD, we were blessed to finally bring our son, William Patrick, into our lives on August 20, 2008. We were then given a second miracle and welcomed our daughter, Emma Grace, on July 17, 2010. And just when we thought we were done, we got even luckier and Andrew Robert joined us on October 11, 2012.
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When you start looking into the world of infertility, there are a lot of sad stories. But if you search just a little harder, you can find the happy stories, too. Here are just some of the miracles happening to IF girls, just like us, right now:
Manapan is pregnant after three miscarriages. Betas and ultrasounds looking good!
It Is What It Is has all of their paperwork completed and is waiting to adopt #2.
Rachel is pregnant with Bargain Baby.
OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH!!! Amy is in the third trimester!
A is in the second trimester with #2. She thought it was a boy, but she was wrong. . . SISTERS!
Mommyshoes is going to need another pair of shoes for #2!
Stacey is a finally a mommy after recurrent pregnancy loss. Lily is here!!!
Red is a mommy again. Beatrice has arrived.
Tiffany and Nolan are battling the four month sleep regression.
Kathy, Bob, Sean, and Abigail have Molly in their hearts.
Joy is a mommy to three daughters and TTC #4!
Missy is a mommy to Kaylee.
MNRN is a mommy to Kate!
Alison and B are doing great! And she is pregnant again!
Samantha had a Valentine's Baby!
Polka Dot and her husband are adopting.
Waiting In Line has the twins and is in the second trimester with a third boy!
Ms. J is a mommy to Little Pumpkin and Peanut!
In Search of Morning Sickness is a mommy to Elyana and TTC #2.
Yoka is a mommy to Lillian and TTC #2.
JJ is a mommy to Oliver!
Jen is a mommy to Elizabeth Rose!
Tracy is a mommy to Evan and Rowan!
Jen, Jillian, and Hayden are doing great!
Geohde has the takeaways, Saag and Naan, and is TTC again.
Adriene is a mommy to Gabriella and Grace!
K is enjoying motherhood with Harry and Josephine!
Farah is mastering motherhood with MT and 2.0!
R&R is loving life with Lemy and Jasper.
Kristen and Nate are doing great and she is pregnant again.
Chris is a mommy to Andrew.
Baby Steps to Baby Shoes is a mommy to Zachary.
Mrs. Piggy is blessed with twins Emerson and Owen.
Debby is a mommy to two handsome boys - Grayson and Sawyer.
Manapan is pregnant after three miscarriages. Betas and ultrasounds looking good!
It Is What It Is has all of their paperwork completed and is waiting to adopt #2.
Rachel is pregnant with Bargain Baby.
OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH!!! Amy is in the third trimester!
A is in the second trimester with #2. She thought it was a boy, but she was wrong. . . SISTERS!
Mommyshoes is going to need another pair of shoes for #2!
Stacey is a finally a mommy after recurrent pregnancy loss. Lily is here!!!
Red is a mommy again. Beatrice has arrived.
Tiffany and Nolan are battling the four month sleep regression.
Kathy, Bob, Sean, and Abigail have Molly in their hearts.
Joy is a mommy to three daughters and TTC #4!
Missy is a mommy to Kaylee.
MNRN is a mommy to Kate!
Alison and B are doing great! And she is pregnant again!
Samantha had a Valentine's Baby!
Polka Dot and her husband are adopting.
Waiting In Line has the twins and is in the second trimester with a third boy!
Ms. J is a mommy to Little Pumpkin and Peanut!
In Search of Morning Sickness is a mommy to Elyana and TTC #2.
Yoka is a mommy to Lillian and TTC #2.
JJ is a mommy to Oliver!
Jen is a mommy to Elizabeth Rose!
Tracy is a mommy to Evan and Rowan!
Jen, Jillian, and Hayden are doing great!
Geohde has the takeaways, Saag and Naan, and is TTC again.
Adriene is a mommy to Gabriella and Grace!
K is enjoying motherhood with Harry and Josephine!
Farah is mastering motherhood with MT and 2.0!
R&R is loving life with Lemy and Jasper.
Kristen and Nate are doing great and she is pregnant again.
Chris is a mommy to Andrew.
Baby Steps to Baby Shoes is a mommy to Zachary.
Mrs. Piggy is blessed with twins Emerson and Owen.
Debby is a mommy to two handsome boys - Grayson and Sawyer.
Finally . . . Our Dream Come True
Sweet Baby Will Born August 20, 2008 8 lbs. 6 oz. 20 inches long
The Life and Times of Me
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Molly Marie Benson
Born at 12:57 PM on April 17, 2008 Went to heaven at 1:15 PM April 17, 2008
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- Disenchanted With Reality
- Elephant in the Room
- Empty Womb Syndrome
- Feeling Empty
- Fertilize Me
- I'll Take An Evap
- In Search of Morning Sickness
- Infertility Just Sucks
- Jen and Jeramy
- Journey to Babeland
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- Life As A Sandwich
- Life From Here
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- Living With the Cards I Was Dealt
- Love Will Tear Us Apart
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- Luck Doesn't Happen Twice
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- Pee Sticks & Stones
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- Road Blocks and Rollercoasters
- Road To Adopt
- Searching For Hope
- Secret Garden
- Sometimes It's the Destination
- SouthernInfertility
- Stickybean
- The Wonder Twins
- Three of A Kind, Working On A Full House
- waiting For. . . ?
- Waiting In Line
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13 comments:
I'd like to know too. It's what I worry about the most. How could I possibly love another child as much as I love my daughter? And what does that mean for the newbie? I'm sure in the end it all works out fine, so we'll just have to wait and see.
I thought the same thing when I was pregnant with #2. Then we found out we were having another girl. How could she possibly be as cute/sweet/perfect/loving, etc. as her big sister? The answer is simple. You just do. Your heart swells far beyond what you can imagine. You just can't understand until the second one's here :)
Ahhhh! We've been having this *very* conversation at our house. I am an only child, so it seems even harder for me to understand! My MIL (mother of three) says "They put that little baby in your arms and you start loving that way all over again." Cute, huh? Guess we just have to wait and see!
BTW, I woke up today (5w1d) with hideous morning sickness. Hasn't gone away and it is 3pm. Ugh.... Glad you're feeling better though! haha
I wondered the SAME thing up until she came into the world. Well, there is no explanation. All I can say is, You just do! If your heart could swell to allow more room, that is what happens!
You just do. Your heart has unlimited love :)
Even though I don't have a second child everybody I know has told me that
you know I actively fret over this, on all sorts of levels, including the adoptive vs. bio.
Would you believe I got word the other day of a friend's adoptive match and was crazy JEALOUS, and then 5 minutes later remembered I was pregnant (WTF?!)
I am told the same thing many others have said ... The moment in your arms helps a lot. I know it's different, but 13 yrs ago my then-19 yr old cousin became pregnant, and much of the family spent 9 months trying to come to terms with it. 20 minutes after our BELOVED Nate was born, none of us could remember how we ever got by without him before?! He has been thee most exquisite and delightful child, and is now becoming such a splendid young man :o)
But I am going continue to fret for another 8 wks, okay?!
Your heart just explodes and it becomes a nonquestion. :)
Easy. The same way it is possible to love the first child as much as you do. Because that kind of love seems impossible too.
Catching up! On the stroller thing, obviously I can't be of any help. But I was satisfied with what I had for Bean in the "single" version, so I am trying it again with twins. I am getting a Graco double frame that will hold two infant car seats, and then the Maclaren side-by-side stroller.
As far as loving more than one... I have absolutely no idea. I love the twins a ton already, but they surely can't be as awesome as Bean.
Oh, and I sent you a link to the helping hands site this morning. Check your spam folder -- the message has "Sunny in Seattle" in the title. :)
It just happens and it's amazing. You never think you'll be able to do it, but somehow your heart swells and is filled with even MORE love. '
Again, it's just amazing!
This old granny had the same situation 32 yrs. ago. Had a beautiful little girl, lost a precious baby at 12 weeks, and then had a successful pregnancy. When the third pregnancy was sound, I began to wonder how I could love baby 3 as much as baby 1. A wise friend said because I loved our first girl so much, I would be able to love baby 3 just that same way. She was right. Love for our new daughter bursted my heart just as my love for her sister did. My love for these fine young women continues to grow!
Liz in GA
I felt the same way when pregnant with #2. But there is no understanding it until it happens (just like everyone told you parenthood is amazing, and yet you didn't *quite* understand until your baby was born). Your heart just grows, and makes room for more. And your cup will just continue to run over and over and over..........!
I have three and it all just grows every time. It's inexplicable. It's wonderful. It's amazing. And it will just happen, you will love this one just as much as Will! You may even love them both more :)
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