I got the phone call that we all dread today.
"Hey, I know we haven't talked in awhile. I've just been slammed at work." The friend saying this has not called me since we last talked in December, two days after my D&C. She told me that she couldn't really handle all the "drama" of my constant miscarriages and needed to "take a step back."
I replied, "You must have been really busy. I've called a few times, I've left a few messages."
Long pause on her end. "Yeah, I know, I got your messages. Things have been crazy."
My response, "Well, it's good to hear from you now. What's up?"
She says, "Well, I am glad you asked. The thing is. . . I am pregnant!"
Long pause on my end. "Wow. . . I didn't even know that you were trying." This friend is not married and actually told me in that same conversation that she wasn't sure that she ever wanted children and that I should be happy that I wasn't tied down anymore.
"Yeah, well, we weren't trying, really. It just kind of happened. But we're getting married and I wanted to invite you to my shower. It's going to be a combo bridal/baby shower."
"Gee, that's great. Congratulations on the wedding and the baby."
"Thanks. I am not sure really whether to be happy or not. I never really thought that I would have kids. My fiance is actually pretty upset about the whole thing, but we both figure we should do what's right. Plus, I didn't even know I was pregnant until after the first trimester was over, so it was too late for an abortion."
When is appropriate to hang up on someone? When can you ask them to please just shut up? When can you ask them to give you their baby, since they obviously don't want it? Since none of these are ever appropriate, I suffered through another fifteen minutes of rhetoric with her, asking about her dress, the nursery, where they will honeymoon. She made sure to tell me that they are registered at the following places: Macy's, Pottery Barn, Williams Sonoma, and Baby's R Us. I'll have to keep that in mind. I finally told her that I couldn't hear her well and that it must be my cell reception. We hung up, promising to keep in touch. We were both lying.
Sometimes, I just want to know what the frack is going on in this world. There are so many people that would give their left arm for a baby, and then there are those that aren't even sure they want the blessing they have. Why not let those of us that want to be mothers have children and people like my "friend" be the ones that can't have children?
3 DPO. A long time to go in this 2 WW. Agh.