Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Some Thing That Won't Help Matters

I heard about this on the radio yesterday morning.

With my recent weight gain, I won't be heading to my local 31 Flavors today.

But even if I wasn't worried about gaining a healthy amount of weight, I have very mixed feelings about this type of promotion.

See, not that long ago, had I heard about this, my response would have been, "Those preggers already have a baby. I am the one who needs the free ice cream."

I wish that they would have a Clomid Cup or IVF Ice Cream Day. What about introducing a new flavor - Miscarriage Mocha Chip and everyone that has miscarried never has to pay for it. Ever. What about Retrieval Rum Ripple? I know I certainly would have enjoyed a free cone on the way home from egg retrieval.

I know that most people don't consider infertility something to celebrate. I couldn't disagree more. I felt that each day that I survived, whether it was CD1 or CD 257, was a true miracle. There were so many times that I didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone do all of the other necessary things to get through the day. Yet I did. Somehow.

Now that I am pregnant and seem to be staying that way, I feel as if I deserve recognition far less than I did during my darkest hours. It was then that I really needed someone to say, "Here. Here is your free ice cream. Let's celebrate the fact that you got out of bed today."

So, because I don't own my own ice cream store, here is a free cone for every one of you. Feel free to pass it on. In honor of infertility, this is a special cone, guaranteed to:
Never melt or drip
Contain absolutely no calories or fat grams
Magically turn into your favorite flavor
*Also, for my GD friends, it will not cause any disturbance to your glucose levels!


Mel said...

This post finds me on a very low day and I thank you so much for these words.

Fertilized said...

YUM, think i can get my gluco-meter to spike?

Polka Dot said...

Aw thanks! As yet another period arrives, your timing couldn't have been more perfect.

Polka Dot said...

Um ... hope you don't mind but I just e-mailed their parent company, Dunkin Inc, with a link to your blog. I think they need to read it because you're absolutely right.

Jen said...

Yeah, I've decided to boycott that. I'll take your cone.

Hope2morrow said...

I just listened to the song "I Would Die for That." Wow! I loved it and will probably post it on my site too. Thank you for your post today and the song- both are great, and I am thankful for them. If you haven't read Mel's blog today, you should! She really gave us all something to think about!

Anonymous said...

Couldn't have come on a better day. I could really use a cone of my favorite flavor. Thanks!

In Search of Morning Sickness said...

You know, I don't think your feelings about weight gain are inappropriate. Especially after you talked about your eating habits, serioulsy you sound like you're doing a great job. And then to see the spike in one month, and not to have a discernable reason in your mind for it. It's got to be frustrating! Besides, this is your space and you can vent about what you are feeling bad about. I know it feels like those who've been through IF and losses should just be glad we're pregnant, but that's not life - we ARE glad but that doesn't mean we won't have things that bother/worry/upset us.
*hugs* I think you LOOK amazing!!!!

G said...

Bump day? Wow. Who knew.

Tracy said...

Aside from thinking this promotion was dumb because pregnant women shouldn't eat soft serve, I felt the same way as just seemed insensitive to me. All a matter of perspective, right? They surely didn't ask any pregnant women or infertiles before they had this brainchild.

BrownEyedGirl said...

Thanks for the Caring IF Cone! I was completely shocked with that too!! :(

Anonymous said...

Here! Here!

Now does that cone also cure persistant nausea? ;-)

Anonymous said...

Yeah, I can't say that their promotion really does much for me.

I will take your cone anyday!

Kristen said...

Love that idea! It's so great and thoughtful (as always)! I also think it is funny they are promoting soft serve when it is a listeria risk to pregnant women.

Ms. J said...

I couldn't agree more! I am a big believer in the healing powers of ice cream.

BTW, I wanted to tell you how honored I am to be listed under you're "We're Celebrating!" column on your blog. That means so very much to me -- I can't put into words just how touched I was to see news of our L.O.A. there!

If nothing else, I hope it helps other couples to realize that there are multiple paths to parenthood. This just happened to be the right one for us, and we couldn't be happier!