Turns out that there are a lot of insensitive people out there. You'd think I would have learned that during the miscarriages. People just don't know what to say about loss. I get that. I've been there, on the other end of the phone or in person, when someone tells you bad news and your mind just blanks.
However, what I don't get is what is it about pregnancy that makes usually levelheaded people apt to say the darndest things.
These are some things that have been said to me in the past few weeks (since I have been showing). The italics are things that I wish I had the guts to say, but I think I managed an awkward smile.
"Your face is getting so fat*." Yeah, I'm pregnant. What's your excuse?
"You're huge*." Bite me.
"It must be a girl, because your thighs are so wide*." Again, bite me.
"Oh, good, you're still pregnant. I'm glad your body didn't kill this one off." No, but my body is about to kill you off.
"You did IVF, right? My best friend's sister's aunt's daughter did that and she had sextuplets. Are you sure there is just one in there? I'll bet it's at least twins." Well, after twelve ultrasounds, we're pretty sure it's just the one. . .
"Wow, [insert weeks along here]? Are you sure? You're huge." Bite me*.
*For the record, my doctor assures me that I am measuring perfectly, but as I have a foreward tilting uterus, I show faster and larger than some girls. I have not gained any undue amounts of weight and I was not overweight to begin with.