It Really Gets You Thinking

Okay, so I called my OB's office and spoke with his medical assistant. She said that any dull cramps or tugging pains are fine. She even said that shooting, quick pains can be okay, too - the infamous round ligament pains. However, she said if I had any bleeding, if the cramps didn't go away with rest, or if I was just still worried, then I should come in for a heartbeat check. Since I haven't had any spotting, I have decided (for now anyway), to be brave and believe that these cramps are just a normal pregnancy side effect.

I know that my pregnancy nerves are also increased when I hear about a loss. Pregnancy has always ended badly for me and when someone that I care about has a miscarriage, it reminds me of how much it hurts when it ends. I am not trying to make someone else's pain about me, but our losses are just so fresh and it just brings back the pain.

My friend, A, is having an early miscarriage. She has fifteen month old twins from an IVF cycle. She and her husband wanted a third baby and did their FET in mid-February. Her betas were low to begin with, but doubled appropriately. However, she is a POAS-aholic and her tests started getting fainter. She went back in and her beta was only at 21 on Friday. She started the spotting today and she is heartbroken. They had to thaw all five of their blasts to get two "good" quality embryos for the transfer, so they would have to do a fresh cycle if they wanted to try again. She was working and had good insurance for their first cycle, but is now a stay at home mom and they simply don't have the money for another shot. I am heartbroken for them.