So my sister is getting married today. Actually, right now, she is in her dress, flowers in her hair, feet bare, at sunset, in Hawaii. Getting married.
And I am not there.
There is, of course, a dramatic backstory. Bad relationship with my mother. Not wanting any "complications" on her big day. Hurt feelings, angry words, tears. It's all been done.
But today, what it boils down to, is that my baby sister, the girl that I played Barbies and My Little Ponies with, is getting married.
And I am not there.
It breaks my heart a bit. And feels completely. . .
Unreal.
After taking the hit so many times, we finally dodged the bullet . . . And we're forever grateful. This is a story about parenting our three miracles after unexplained recurrent pregnancy loss.
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Our Story. . . So Far
My husband and I endured nine miscarriages as we tried to build our family, becoming part of the 2% of couples who experience recurrent miscarriages. All of our friends had babies, so I used to joke, "It's because I am taking the statistical bullet for you." It stopped being funny, but it made a great blog title.
Through the miracle of IVF/PGD, we were blessed to finally bring our son, William Patrick, into our lives on August 20, 2008. We were then given a second miracle and welcomed our daughter, Emma Grace, on July 17, 2010. And just when we thought we were done, we got even luckier and Andrew Robert joined us on October 11, 2012.
Through the miracle of IVF/PGD, we were blessed to finally bring our son, William Patrick, into our lives on August 20, 2008. We were then given a second miracle and welcomed our daughter, Emma Grace, on July 17, 2010. And just when we thought we were done, we got even luckier and Andrew Robert joined us on October 11, 2012.
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When you start looking into the world of infertility, there are a lot of sad stories. But if you search just a little harder, you can find the happy stories, too. Here are just some of the miracles happening to IF girls, just like us, right now:
Manapan is pregnant after three miscarriages. Betas and ultrasounds looking good!
It Is What It Is has all of their paperwork completed and is waiting to adopt #2.
Rachel is pregnant with Bargain Baby.
OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH!!! Amy is in the third trimester!
A is in the second trimester with #2. She thought it was a boy, but she was wrong. . . SISTERS!
Mommyshoes is going to need another pair of shoes for #2!
Stacey is a finally a mommy after recurrent pregnancy loss. Lily is here!!!
Red is a mommy again. Beatrice has arrived.
Tiffany and Nolan are battling the four month sleep regression.
Kathy, Bob, Sean, and Abigail have Molly in their hearts.
Joy is a mommy to three daughters and TTC #4!
Missy is a mommy to Kaylee.
MNRN is a mommy to Kate!
Alison and B are doing great! And she is pregnant again!
Samantha had a Valentine's Baby!
Polka Dot and her husband are adopting.
Waiting In Line has the twins and is in the second trimester with a third boy!
Ms. J is a mommy to Little Pumpkin and Peanut!
In Search of Morning Sickness is a mommy to Elyana and TTC #2.
Yoka is a mommy to Lillian and TTC #2.
JJ is a mommy to Oliver!
Jen is a mommy to Elizabeth Rose!
Tracy is a mommy to Evan and Rowan!
Jen, Jillian, and Hayden are doing great!
Geohde has the takeaways, Saag and Naan, and is TTC again.
Adriene is a mommy to Gabriella and Grace!
K is enjoying motherhood with Harry and Josephine!
Farah is mastering motherhood with MT and 2.0!
R&R is loving life with Lemy and Jasper.
Kristen and Nate are doing great and she is pregnant again.
Chris is a mommy to Andrew.
Baby Steps to Baby Shoes is a mommy to Zachary.
Mrs. Piggy is blessed with twins Emerson and Owen.
Debby is a mommy to two handsome boys - Grayson and Sawyer.
Manapan is pregnant after three miscarriages. Betas and ultrasounds looking good!
It Is What It Is has all of their paperwork completed and is waiting to adopt #2.
Rachel is pregnant with Bargain Baby.
OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH, OH MY GOSH!!! Amy is in the third trimester!
A is in the second trimester with #2. She thought it was a boy, but she was wrong. . . SISTERS!
Mommyshoes is going to need another pair of shoes for #2!
Stacey is a finally a mommy after recurrent pregnancy loss. Lily is here!!!
Red is a mommy again. Beatrice has arrived.
Tiffany and Nolan are battling the four month sleep regression.
Kathy, Bob, Sean, and Abigail have Molly in their hearts.
Joy is a mommy to three daughters and TTC #4!
Missy is a mommy to Kaylee.
MNRN is a mommy to Kate!
Alison and B are doing great! And she is pregnant again!
Samantha had a Valentine's Baby!
Polka Dot and her husband are adopting.
Waiting In Line has the twins and is in the second trimester with a third boy!
Ms. J is a mommy to Little Pumpkin and Peanut!
In Search of Morning Sickness is a mommy to Elyana and TTC #2.
Yoka is a mommy to Lillian and TTC #2.
JJ is a mommy to Oliver!
Jen is a mommy to Elizabeth Rose!
Tracy is a mommy to Evan and Rowan!
Jen, Jillian, and Hayden are doing great!
Geohde has the takeaways, Saag and Naan, and is TTC again.
Adriene is a mommy to Gabriella and Grace!
K is enjoying motherhood with Harry and Josephine!
Farah is mastering motherhood with MT and 2.0!
R&R is loving life with Lemy and Jasper.
Kristen and Nate are doing great and she is pregnant again.
Chris is a mommy to Andrew.
Baby Steps to Baby Shoes is a mommy to Zachary.
Mrs. Piggy is blessed with twins Emerson and Owen.
Debby is a mommy to two handsome boys - Grayson and Sawyer.
Finally . . . Our Dream Come True
Sweet Baby Will Born August 20, 2008 8 lbs. 6 oz. 20 inches long
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Born at 12:57 PM on April 17, 2008 Went to heaven at 1:15 PM April 17, 2008
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- Life As A Sandwich
- Life From Here
- Life In the Cat Pad
- Living With the Cards I Was Dealt
- Love Will Tear Us Apart
- Love, Hope, and Faith
- Luck Doesn't Happen Twice
- Mission: Impossible
- Our Box of Rain
- Pee Sticks & Stones
- Reproductive Jeans
- Road Blocks and Rollercoasters
- Road To Adopt
- Searching For Hope
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- Sometimes It's the Destination
- SouthernInfertility
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9 comments:
i am very sorry
I am sorry. That sucks. I'm sure your sister knows that you are thinking of her and that you are there in spirit.
This post brought tears to my eyes. I hope that things can be resolved with your mom in the near future!
((HUGS))
I am so, so sorry, Katie. That totally sucks.
Oh no...I am so sorry.
I'm so terribly sorry, Katie. I wish I had the power to make you invisible so you could be there and just not have to deal with the family drama. XOXO
I'm sorry, I know exactly how you feel. I wasn't at my sister's wedding and she didn't come to mine, out of an understanding for one another because of things my mother did to both of us. It's sad and unreal.
I'm sorry. I hope you'll be able to go forward and regain a good relationship with your sister.
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