Monday, January 26, 2009

Memorial Monday

This week's Memorial Monday post is in honor of Thanh, who wrote in for his wife, Lisa, and their two angel babies.

Dear Katie,

Could you please use our story for memorial monday? Just copy and paste my e-mail if you don't mind.

My wife Lisa is the most amazing wife and will make a wonderful mother. We have lost two babies to PROM both in the second trimester. The first baby was a girl and we delivered her ourselves at home since we didn't have time to get to the hospital and didn't realize that she was in labor until it was too late. Our second baby was born last month in the hospital after several weeks of bedrest and two surgeries to help the baby stay in. The baby was a boy.

My wife has read your blog since before your son was born and I know she finds a lot of happiness in knowing that even bad stories have happy endings. I would really appreciate it if you could post our story for her because she is so sad and some days does not even get out of bed. I think that she would find it nice to have some support from your other readers.

Thank you for being so kind to others who have lost babies. It is very hard to lose babies and feel that no one cares for you or them.

Thank you.


To be featured in upcoming Memorial Mondays, please contact me by clicking on my profile link and then by clicking on my e-mail link. You can either write your story yourself or provide me with the details and I will do it for you. You may include pictures, poetry, whatever feels right. This is your memorial for your loss.


Cassandra said...

Thanh and Lisa,
I am so sorry for your losses. I have a friend who has lost several earlier pregnancies and two around 20 weeks; she's really struggled with deciding what to do next after realizing that the first one wasn't a fluke, and that she may or may not keep losing future pregnancies at the same point. Of all the people that I know who have struggled with infertility and loss, my heart breaks for her the most. I am so sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation to my friend's.

I very much hope that you'll be able to find some answers that allow you decide how to move forward, and I wish you the best in becoming parents.

Thinking of you both, as well as your daughter and your son.

Jen said...

Thanh and Lisa,

I am so sorry that you have to miss your daughter and your son. I will be thinking of all of you and sending my love.

Amy said...

Thanh and Lisa,
My heart is breaking for you both. I wish I had words that would make it all better. please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Big hugs to you both, Amy

Ms. J said...

Thanh and Katie . . .

I am so sorry to learn of the two precious babies that you love so much, and yet your arms ache from not holding.

I know I don't have the right words. Nobody does (though many people have all the wrong, stupid ones, right?!).

Wanted you to know that I am thinking of you both, and your babies.

HUGS from across the internet-world.

Amy said...

Thanh and Lisa,

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry, there is nothing that can or will make you forget your losses--but I will pray for you and your wife.

I have known loss, and my heart just breaks for you both. I wish that there were some thing to be said or done to release you from that pain. Please remember that it is okay to mourn, just don't let your pain become your prison. Once again I am so sorry. Please know that there are people who care and are willing to support you.


Amy said...


I forgot to thank you. I sometimes feel like I am alone and your blog, and Memorial Monday makes me feel like I am not. It also gives me the oppotunity to support someone else, and to forget about myself. You are one awsome lady! Thank you for not forgetting!



Thanh: I am so very sorry to hear about the losses that you and your wife have had to go through. I know it's hard. You will be in my thoughts.

Joy said...

I am so very sorry to hear about your two angel babies. Give your wife time. I would probably stay in bed all the time as well, unable to face the day's mediocrity.