Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!

I have started a post about Valentine's Day many times. The first was a complaint about how my husband and I don't have anything planned and I am worried that the romance is leaving or relationship. I just sounded whiny.

I then did some time researching the history of Valentine's Day, which is rather bloody and uninspiring. I played around with that a bit, but it wasn't flowing right.

Then, I thought about this post from Kathy Benson, who truly defines the meaning of Mother. She said that Valentine's Day would be special this year, because Molly's heart is still beating.

And I thought about this post from Zoe and Lennox's Mom. It is a heartwrenching post on grief, but at the end, it is also a tribute to the love that she has for her husband, Shannon.

Still further, I reflected on all of the wonderful women that I know that have had some bad news these past few weeks. Jumping to mind is Maria, who wrote this post just two days after her negative beta. The love that she and her husband have for each other is truly inspiring.

These are the true stories of love. Valentine's Day is simply that: a day. Sure, flowers and chocolates are nice, but they are not what makes a relationship strong or keeps someone's heart beating. If only it was that easy. No, the true measure of love is when things are darkest and you can turn towards each other and pull each other through. Alone, you might not be strong enough, but together, you can find the strength. So here's to all of us out there, with battle scars from IF that pierce our hearts. What I want to recognize this year is that we are all still here. Despite sadness, loss, discouraging news, heartwrenching decisions, and everything else, we are still here. That is something to celebrate.


Tracy said...

Damn pregnancy hormones.


As usual, you've done me in. And here I was thinking V-day is a Hallmark holiday.

soapchick said...

what a beatiful post. Happy Valentine's Day to you!

Melissa said...

Spot on.
I never knew the love my marriage had until we embarked on the hardest road I'd ever seen. Thank God for real love.
Happy Valentine's Day to you, your husband, and the newest littlest love of your life. ;)

A said...

ditto tracy's comment. *sniff*

Fertilize Me said...

Katie - wonderful tribute to love, IF and partnership! Happy Valentine's Day to you and your growing family!

Amy said...

Happy Valentines Day to you Katie!

Jen said...

Thanks for your very sweet thoughts.

Anonymous said...

I used to feel that way sometimes - like the "stuff" we were doing wasn't romantic enough. But the truth was, I was trying to fulfill some Hollywood version of what romance is in my own life. I don't care about the flowers or gifts, I just really want to be together - even if nothing is being said.

Thanks for the sweet post!

Maria said...

What a perfect post. You really have the best ways of summing things up. You are so right. We are all still here. The fact that we all keep on ticking means so much more than really anything else, because it shows how strong we really are.

Thank you for including me in such a wonderful post.

Happy Valentine's Day!!


Optimistic said...

awww - you said that perfect. Happy V Day

Anonymous said...

How right you are. Thank you for such a beautiful post.

A.M.S. said...

Thank you for all the links, both to my site and to Sweet Zoe! I can't tell you how much it means to us.

Kathy said...

You are so thoughtful. Thank you for your kind words about me and for linking to my post. A very belated Happy Valentine's Day to you, your husband and your sweet baby! Thank you for being such a great blogging friend! (((HUGSS)))