So, Will is turning one year old in just a little over a month. We are in full party planning mode here. I am thrilled to be throwing a party to celebrate this momentous occasion, even if it seems absolutely impossible that Little Man is. . . well, not so little anymore!
Here is my latest party dilemma. M and I have decided that Will really needs nothing else. Seriously, it is ridiculous how many toys, books, and clothes he already has. We don't even have room for what he currently owns and shudder to think about the new additions after a party. We have kept his guest list to family and close friends only, but there are still over thirty people that I am pretty sure will be in attendance. So, we considered asking that people not bring gifts.
That being said, I always feel uncomfortable when the invitation says no gifts. To be honest, I usually bring a gift anyway and leave it in the car. If I see other gifts (and I almost always do), I go and get it. I just feel rude not bringing anything and it stresses me out more to have "no gifts" requested than to just go and get a gift. And I like giving things to children!
Instead, we have thought about asking that people bring an unwrapped new or gently used toy or clothing so that we might make a donation to one of our favorite charities. I wonder, though, if that sounds sanctimonious. While not our intention, does it come off as a "Look at us, how good, how charitable we are"? And, will people then just bring two gifts, one for Will and one to donate? Because that really defeats the purpose and will make it a big inconvenience for our guests.
So, then another option is that we could just donate whatever we get. But then what happens if people come over and don't see their toy amongst his possessions? Would you be offended if you found out that your gift had been donated, even if to a good cause? I think I might.
What would you do? And have you seen this done? What are/were your feelings about this type of donation? And if we do decide to go ahead, how do you think the invitation should read? At this point, I guess I am leaning towards just going the traditional route and not putting anything n the invite about gifts, but I am interested for a weigh-in on this topic.