Friday, March 20, 2009

Never Came A Bit Early

There are so many things that I said I would never do as a parent that I have already done. Here are a few examples:

1) I said that I would not co-sleep. Yet, I have brought Will into our bed. . . many, many times. Although I would say that he generally sleeps through the night in his own crib, we still take the occasional nap together and there was a night ;ess than a week ago where I didn't know what else to do with him at 2 AM and he got to come into bed for a couple of hours.

2) I laughed (not out loud, but on the inside) at people that made their own baby-food. Will has not had a premade baby food (outside of teething biscuits and baby oatmeal) in weeks. I don't do it because I am "too good" for baby food, I do it because I enjoy it and it saves money. The kid loves to eat.

3) I vowed to clean up my fowl language and that my baby's first word would not be of the four-letter variety. And just today, when I dropped a glass plate that I loved and it broke into three gazillion pieces, I let out a string of extremely inappropriate such words. Will just laughed at me, but I could see his little mind storing each little nugget for future use. No doubt in public.

These are just a few examples and Will is a mere seven months old. I can only imagine how many times I will be eating my own words in the coming days, weeks, months, and years. What have you done that you swore you wouldn't since becoming a parent? Or if you are still waiting on your miracle, what is it that you swear you won't do? Go on, I won't say I told you so. . . because I probably have already done it or will very soon!

10 comments:

K @ ourboxofrain said...

I have a combination of things I swore I'd do and don't and those I swore I wouldn't but do.

An example of the former: I swore I'd wear Harry everywhere, but he's not that into it. Attachment parenting isn't his thing, evidently. (I know he wouldn't sleep in our bed even if I did want to co-sleep.)

An example of the latter: I swore I wouldn't stress about milestones or compare him to other babies. And yet I do. I know he isn't going to go to kindergarten unable to sit independently for more than a minute, but I worry about it, as well as his lack of imitative babbling or consonant formation, anyway. Ugh.

Fertilized said...

i am living pretty much all of my never list

Jen said...

Surprisingly, I didn't have many nevers. Maybe because I worked with kids through daycare and school teaching so much that I knew nevers were ridiculous.

I found a recipe for homemade teething biscuits the other day. I'll look for it for you if you want.

Maria said...

Thanks so much for your sweet comment!! It's so great hearing from you as well!! I won't be focusing too much on my cycle, but I will share the pertinent updates.

LOL, I have said I won't do many of the sames things. I have a feeling I'm going to have a hard time reducing my swearing as well.

PamalaLauren said...

I wrote a whole post on this same topic, promises not kept, basically. I was thinking about it the other day and decided to write about it.

http://www.becauseishouldcare.com/2009/03/promises-not-kept/

Gibson Twins said...

Oh I could easily confess to so many things...

I vowed never to have "those kids" (the ones who act up at Target carrying on to no end). Today, even with hubby along to tagteam the twins, my kids were most definitely THOSE KIDS. Daddy whispered in their ear they need to settle down for just a few minutes and all of a sudden girl twin screams at the top of her lungs, "Daddy, you SOOOO MEEEEAAANNN!". And as I was carrying an uncontrollable boy twin out of the store flailing and crying, he starts yelling "owwwwwwwww" and I am telling you, I felt ALL eyes on me...

Joy said...

Ahhh... we've all been there! We make assumptions about how our child will be but when they're born we realize they have their own personality and needs that have to be met certain ways.

For example, one of my daughters co-slept with us and was a "binky baby" until she was 2 years old. The other daughter? Never slept with us except for a couple nights she was terribly sick as a newborn and she has never had a binky.

I LOVE that not all babies are textbook. So refreshing! And I love that you make your own baby food. I have a food processor now so maybe I'll make baby food with this new one coming.

Amanda said...

I try to say never, but that never happens. ;-)

Oh...and the boys first words will either be I Love You or F*ck. Oops...

Ms. J said...

NOT trying to brag, but I am surprised at how many things I have stuck to, and not given in on.

Things I swore I wouldn't do and yet find myself doing . . .

(1) letting LP wear nice clothes to the playground/park. I used to mock those parents that did this - now I do it with the clothes that have been bought for LP that I just think are ugly (not my style) that I was not given a receipt for, LOL! WHat do I care if those get muddy, hee hee!

(2) letting my kid watch children's shows in general, since I always thought so many were stupid, and I didn't want a household in which the kid monopolized the tv schedule. Well . . . tv was used early on by us to help supplment LP learning English, but as I watched shows with her (commenting all the while), I began to see that Nog.gin and Spro.ut had some decent fair. I am now a Dor.a and Backyard.igans fan - they are creative, have story arcs, problem-solving, and so on.

Mel said...

I love this post... I feel you completely!
I never thought I would just be one of those "crazy ladies" who sat and stared at her baby all day.
WRONG.
I never thought I would enjoy breast feeding and cry at the thought of ever having to give it up.
WRONG.
I never thought I would want to get rid of my dog, my precious little adorable puppy.
WRONG... especially when he barks at everything and anything that moves and the baby is trying to sleep. (grrrrrrrr!)