tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post4622118055107812203..comments2023-10-31T07:08:49.742-07:00Comments on Taking the Statistical Bullet: There's Nothing to Fear But Fear Itself. . . And A Few Other ThingsKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-17480715228748197132007-12-01T20:33:00.000-08:002007-12-01T20:33:00.000-08:00Just remember to take it one day and one shot at a...Just remember to take it one day and one shot at a time...I asked my husband if he wanted to do some of the sub Q shots to get ready for the big PIO needles.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there.<BR/><BR/>Amy<BR/>dancingwithinfertility.blogspot.comamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00679719974984886567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-46707691538688378992007-12-01T19:38:00.000-08:002007-12-01T19:38:00.000-08:00Oh, sweetie, bless your heart. I sometimes wish m...Oh, sweetie, bless your heart. I sometimes wish my brain had an "off" switch when I have days like this.<BR/><BR/>So much of this is so difficult and even on the best of days, our husbands can be a bit...oblivious to it all. It sounds like your hubby's heart is in the right place but that his mouth may not be.<BR/><BR/>I wish for both of you some peace and quiet in your hearts and in your minds. This, too, shall pass.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06996076537007147834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-61629253089189039782007-12-01T18:48:00.000-08:002007-12-01T18:48:00.000-08:00IVF is stressful. It's easy to be all weepy, even ...IVF is stressful. It's easy to be all weepy, even without the drugs.<BR/><BR/>Be nice to yourself, and as for the husband thing mine kept his distance, too. I don't think he even knew how to help, rather than being the total irritable PITA I thought he was at the time.<BR/><BR/>xx<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-22441237173979982932007-12-01T18:36:00.000-08:002007-12-01T18:36:00.000-08:00I'm sorry that this has to suck so much :O(.Now, s...I'm sorry that this has to suck so much :O(.<BR/><BR/>Now, some advice.<BR/><BR/>The Menopur burned for me also. I learned that you can do a few things to help with this. For one, after mixing, let it sit for about five minutes. This seems to help a lot. And secondly, release the pinch of skin once you start to push the plunger, that helps also. I found that helped a lot also.<BR/><BR/>As for as being emotionally irrational... yeah, didn't I warn ya with my horror stories? It sucks terribly.<BR/><BR/>I'm really praying that this is IT for you... it's just not fair that you have to deal with such a whirlwind of uncertainties.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00680931702262048959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-25078514705078459022007-12-01T17:47:00.000-08:002007-12-01T17:47:00.000-08:00I like what von said - most of it is the drugs (lu...I like what von said - most of it is the drugs (lupron had me crying for 2 weeks straight, with meltdowns in store aisles). Honest. <BR/><BR/>But your DH needs to understand that and not to take any reaction personally. And he also needs to understand that you need more from him than he's giving. My DH is the same - he shows up for his date with the cup and that's about it. Although I did make him start giving me the follistim injections (mine are from the UK, so they're in the muscle - and way cheaper) on our last cycle for the same reasons. I felt like I was putting so much into it and all he had to do was spend 10 minutes in a room with dirty magazine and a cup.Polka Dothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633374196156501103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-69150049675044552782007-12-01T17:11:00.000-08:002007-12-01T17:11:00.000-08:00I know all of these emotions too well. For me, it...I know all of these emotions too well. For me, it helped to think about things one step at a time. It is a difficult emotional thing to go through and then on top of it all, you are shooting yourself full of hormones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-87768969080043725662007-12-01T16:53:00.000-08:002007-12-01T16:53:00.000-08:00I'm on different meds but I'm totally the same - I...I'm on different meds but I'm totally the same - I cry very easily and I'm definitely short-tempered. I'm not bitchy per se or psycho like I was on Clomid, but definitely I have no patience, and he of course gets the brunt of it. If it helps him, tell him he's not alone:-)<BR/><BR/>On the scared, damn rights. We try so hard to just go step by step and take it all in but there's so many steps to knock you down and freak you out. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with all of it. I'm in it with ya.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02519495904693373900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-19030765328232192392007-12-01T16:08:00.000-08:002007-12-01T16:08:00.000-08:00I'm sorry. The process is so stressful and the dr...I'm sorry. The process is so stressful and the drugs only make things worse. FWIW, my foll.istim always made me bleed and my LH (from microdose ovi.drel) always stung going in.<BR/><BR/>I think men try to understand, but it's not their bodies, and that's a hard gulf to bridge.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-53461947164872648002007-12-01T15:31:00.000-08:002007-12-01T15:31:00.000-08:00You are not going crazy. It is the drugs and the s...You are not going crazy. It is the drugs and the stress doing it to you.<BR/>You shouldn't have to apologise for what you are going through. You have NO control over your emotions/body.<BR/>I know exactly what it's like. My husband refused to take part in our 1st IVF at all, except for his "part" in the whole process. Let's just say it didn't go down too well esp. as he was the one pushing IVF.<BR/>In hindsight I realised it was his way of coping, and not a particulary good way at that.<BR/>Next time round I had a big chat with him about needing his support both physically and emotionally or there wasn't going to be a 2nd cycle. He was much better and even came with me to an appointment or two.<BR/>The only thing I can suggest is to sit your husband down, on a day when you feel good, and ask him what's going on. <BR/>You thought you both wanted this, does he want to stop after this cycle, does he feel he is losing his wife or just wants you back to yourself, does it make him feel out of control, etc etc.<BR/>If it's any help, my husband and I have always sworn that the day IF started causing any hint of a problem in our marriage then the IF journey stopped.<BR/>Men. They can be very strange creatures.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10966735600478340142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-86800193049177210152007-12-01T15:07:00.000-08:002007-12-01T15:07:00.000-08:00I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now. I...I'm sorry you're having a rough time right now. It ebbs and flows, doesn't it? <BR/><BR/>At least you guys are talking, even though it doesn't feel like it was all that productive. I hope things get better soon...<BR/><BR/>xoxoTracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02248665952867223815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-26943141138699865472007-12-01T14:46:00.000-08:002007-12-01T14:46:00.000-08:00I am sorry that you are feeling all these really d...I am sorry that you are feeling all these really difficult emotions. You are a brave girl. I made my husband give me my shots. I did give myself a few. But mostly my job was mixing, his job was injecting. That is how i made "us" be a part of this. Hang in there, Boys just don't get all these emotional aspects... but WE DO.. and we are here for you. You hubby is there for you too ... be extra kind and gentle to yourselfAwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-14656964881806091112007-12-01T13:08:00.000-08:002007-12-01T13:08:00.000-08:00Sorry things are sad today. :( I'm hoping for you ...Sorry things are sad today. :( I'm hoping for you it will be all worth it in the end. It sucks that boys can be dumb and insensitive sometimes, like they don't need to say anything, just listening would be a good start. I'll say a little prayer for some serenity for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-15579792723666393142007-12-01T11:46:00.000-08:002007-12-01T11:46:00.000-08:00You poor thing. I can totally relate though. I gu...You poor thing. I can totally relate though. I guess my perspective was why should *I* have to do all the work. I have to take the shots, I have to worry about making it to appointments, I have to hope and pray my body does what its supposed to do. Only for him to go in a room and masturbate. It just seemed unfair. But you'll get through it, and once you get that BFP, you guys will both be able to relax and then live in fear between ultrasounds :)Mrs. Piggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10981344126071792523noreply@blogger.com