tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post4217139693059730420..comments2023-10-31T07:08:49.742-07:00Comments on Taking the Statistical Bullet: AftermathKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-86763329705906572412009-06-06T06:35:32.315-07:002009-06-06T06:35:32.315-07:00Oh dear katie...i'm so so sorry for your lates...Oh dear katie...i'm so so sorry for your latest loss. and I'm sorry i've been a bad reader and am just now reading this. i'll be praying for you guys.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08741422504006590216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-62640358860592223632009-05-26T15:09:38.786-07:002009-05-26T15:09:38.786-07:00shitballz. I can't even keep count for you anymore...shitballz. I can't even keep count for you anymore. I hate this. Go get those frosties and keep me posted! love you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975006475975958851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-40668360648837414282009-05-26T12:20:56.261-07:002009-05-26T12:20:56.261-07:00I am so sorry about your loss. I hope you find ti...I am so sorry about your loss. I hope you find time to grieve.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243054875237959038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-90128405222884952132009-05-25T18:35:25.360-07:002009-05-25T18:35:25.360-07:00I am sad for you as well:-( I have m/c'd a lot as ...I am sad for you as well:-( I have m/c'd a lot as well and it never gets easier...Dan & Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02322411767813043827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-89554095378855395932009-05-25T12:57:43.813-07:002009-05-25T12:57:43.813-07:00here from L&F. i'm so sorry to hear this....here from L&F. i'm so sorry to hear this. take the time you need to grieve. there is no magic date that makes grieving 'acceptable' or a loss more of a true loss. you have experienced a loss and you need to do what you need to do. take good care of yourself.meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867137276917406552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-78753311481193936512009-05-25T11:53:42.699-07:002009-05-25T11:53:42.699-07:00{{hugs}}
This hurts, it is a loss - even if only ...{{hugs}}<br /><br />This hurts, it <I>is</I> a loss - even if only in potentiality.<br /><br />It hurts so much, because you care so much - and that is the point. That you are hurting. It shouldn't be about whether or not you have the "right" to hurt - if it should be a big hurt or a little hurt, it just is a hurt.<br /><br />So, I am sorry you are hurting. <br /><br />My first miscarriage is just coming up on the 14th year anniversary - next week! I still cry sometimes. My most "recent" miscarriage hit the 7th year anniversary last month, it still hurts sometimes and I still cry. I tell you this - because these are not just insignificant little blips along life's pathway. They are important to you and you must grieve. It's that simple.<br /><br />Sending you peaceful wishes and hopeful thoughts.JuliaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10668995954240697998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-88981177687964663912009-05-25T09:54:32.387-07:002009-05-25T09:54:32.387-07:00I had a chemical pregnancy before our William was ...I had a chemical pregnancy before our William was conceived last year, and it most definitely "counts" as a loss. That baby was real to me even just in the few days I knew I was pregnant, just as William was, and I lost them both. We think in such linear terms sometimes, but our babies are our babies forever. Forever.Inannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03696628144350223948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-89964710960771868592009-05-24T04:20:21.784-07:002009-05-24T04:20:21.784-07:00I'm so sorry, Katie. It's beyond not fair.
I agr...I'm so sorry, Katie. It's beyond not fair. <br /><br />I agree completely with the others - it's not your fault. Nothing you worried about caused what happened. And you have every right to grieve the loss as anyone who lost a child later in pregnancy.Polka Dothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633374196156501103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-70069307153353758842009-05-23T20:35:08.656-07:002009-05-23T20:35:08.656-07:00It's a baby either way- whether 5 weeks or 25. An...It's a baby either way- whether 5 weeks or 25. And with that loss is the loss of the dreams and hopes and visions of life with that little one that you had in your heart. I am so very sorry.Mommy Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13625055463883932900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-16970445290029905982009-05-23T06:42:21.648-07:002009-05-23T06:42:21.648-07:00...and please accept the hugs and comfort from a n......and please accept the hugs and comfort from a new one.Mr. Thompson and Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17776375290138087387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-22852941567578397142009-05-22T21:40:01.702-07:002009-05-22T21:40:01.702-07:00Please accept the hugs and comfort from an old fri...Please accept the hugs and comfort from an old friend.S and J plus 4https://www.blogger.com/profile/00568113317659133980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-9783539108516856722009-05-22T19:45:10.311-07:002009-05-22T19:45:10.311-07:00I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. As everyone e...I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. As everyone else has said, you have every right to grieve. A loss can be devastating no matter when it happens. It's not silly. And you don't have to minimize your feelings, least of all here.<br /><br />(HUGS)K @ ourboxofrainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633428907297371867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-74992289177726943822009-05-22T19:04:51.518-07:002009-05-22T19:04:51.518-07:00I've been without a computer and wanting to check ...I've been without a computer and wanting to check on you!!!<br /><br />I'm so sorry, Katie!<br /><br />And no loss, no matter how young, is so insignificant as to not be mourned. I know others make you feel like it's no big deal, especially if you've had other losses... but the fact is that it IS a big deal to you. *HUGS* And you can cry and get angry if you want to!!!Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-58853729033325404822009-05-22T14:56:33.668-07:002009-05-22T14:56:33.668-07:00Oh, Katie, I am so sorry. You have lost more than...Oh, Katie, I am so sorry. You have lost more than anyone I know. Your heart is amazingly strong in a way mine could never be. I am so sad for this loss. <br />*hugs*Mazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16914742489846963185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-82782590783956726512009-05-22T13:46:57.214-07:002009-05-22T13:46:57.214-07:00There is no need to minimalize your feelings, no m...There is no need to minimalize your feelings, no matter when a loss occurs in a pregnancy there is sadnes, anger and grieving. Hang in there sweetie and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs))))Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15780053627242294683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-89108703226421367032009-05-22T13:32:37.181-07:002009-05-22T13:32:37.181-07:00Hugs Sweetie!!!!Hugs Sweetie!!!!Prairie Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074721362150442669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-16256010791759483552009-05-22T12:32:58.526-07:002009-05-22T12:32:58.526-07:00I'm so sorry. This really sucks.I'm so sorry. This really sucks.HereWeGoAJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17457680345376171720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-85411449659609596962009-05-22T11:32:59.017-07:002009-05-22T11:32:59.017-07:00(((HUGS))) Katie. I believe that every loss is a ...(((HUGS))) Katie. I believe that every loss is a loss whether it was early on in a pregnancy or later or even after birth. It is still the death of a dream, the dream of your life with that child and it is difficult and painful to let go of.<br /><br />I had similar feeling of guilt after my first m/c. Sean was just over a year old and though we wanted our children close in age, I was a bit overwhelmed by things happening so quickly. I also remember being annoied that they would be 21 months apart buy one year in school. I thought that was wierd. I remember feeling like after the m/c that I hadn't been "excited" enough and shouldn't have had those thoughts. Even though I get that we don't cause these things to happen to ourselves. <br /><br />Anyway, holding you close in my thoughts and prayers. New losses do seem to bring back the feeling and emotions related to previous ones. Hang in there. (((HUGS)))Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-66175228238955486392009-05-22T11:13:11.295-07:002009-05-22T11:13:11.295-07:00I can imagine that your heart is aching. It is a l...I can imagine that your heart is aching. It is a loss, no matter how far along you are, Katie. I'm so sorry you are sad.Adrianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522765399716764611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-57503388902941652392009-05-22T10:27:31.581-07:002009-05-22T10:27:31.581-07:00Sweetie, this IS a loss. It was another baby that...Sweetie, this IS a loss. It was another baby that you would have loved as fiercely as Will. It was as real as any other pregnancy. It does not matter whether a pregnancy ends at 3 weeks or 38 weeks . . . loss is loss. It's sad and scary and traumatic and each is unique. <br /><br />Please be kind to yourself. <br /><br />Ask yourself to consider what your words of support would have been had you read this tale on somebody else's blog . . . you'd be reassuring them that they in no way contributed to the m/c, and that it is indeed tragic, and awful. <br /><br />You are allowed to grieve as much and as openly as you need or want to. Having Will does not negate that, either.<br /><br />"Hearting" you, honey ;o)Ms. Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734867984972785143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-62045531770269357542009-05-22T10:10:03.361-07:002009-05-22T10:10:03.361-07:00I have no words to make the pain better, but know ...I have no words to make the pain better, but know that I am thinking of you. ((MANY HUGS))RBandRChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018306370247688896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-66437599178045536272009-05-22T10:04:58.317-07:002009-05-22T10:04:58.317-07:00I am a bad friend! I have been meaning to send yo...I am a bad friend! I have been meaning to send you an email for a few days now. I am sorry that you have to experience a loss. It IS a loss and it hurts. It is not your fault, I am sorry that you have anything to greive over.AwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6490746375774981338.post-6351565069605782562009-05-22T09:44:50.574-07:002009-05-22T09:44:50.574-07:00You have every right to grieve. A loss is a loss. ...You have every right to grieve. A loss is a loss. And it hurts. I had a suspected ectopic/chemical/blighted ovum (they weren't too sure what was going on with me) with my first loss several years ago at 5 weeks. And it was just as traumatic as my loss at 11.5 weeks. <br /><br />Big hugs to you. I am so sorry you have to go through this yet again.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03542962726270982824noreply@blogger.com